The Lonely Hearts NOT looking for love


Now, before I even begin writing or more precisely typing this post, I am FULLY aware that there are going to be people who will COMPLETELY disagree with me on this.

They may even accuse me of being unfair, unfeeling or whatever else springs to mind. Yet, this is MY opinion on MY blog; so I am going to discuss this matter ANYWAY as I feel it needs to be!!!

I realise that WordPress is a great platform to meet people, albeit virtually; to discuss, connect and even form friendships. I can see that the very nature of blogging is about being sociable and affable, and indeed inviting others to take a step inside your life and follow you on a journey.

However, I for one draw the line, and it is a deep and long line, in the sand when it comes to ‘looking for love’.

I know there are some people out there in the virtual world who choose to do this very thing via WordPress, which again is THEIR choice. Yet, I would take serious issue if that was brought to the door of my life (my life here on WordPress).

You see enquiring about relationship statuses, love preferences or trying to ‘score’ a date is not something I would willing choose to have to deal with on a serious blog (I hope), about serious topics (I hope).

Any ‘love’ enquiry, for me, would completely dismiss me and my skills as a writer. I would find such things highly stereotypical; I am a woman therefore a love interest and nothing more. I am a woman therefore I must be fair game.

I for one am not on WordPress to find love. If there are people out there who are – good for them! I personally don’t see WordPress as a lonely hearts column, for me it is about my writing and making connections with people who take my writing seriously. That is just my opinion on it all folks!

You see, I DON’T tend to invite people into my inner most life, the life I really exist within outside of my blogging world. Reason, well I have stated this before in other posts; it is because that part of me and my life is sacred, that is a portion of me for me and for those I know.

This is not to say I don’t appreciate online friendships – I have many of these and cherish and value them. In fact, if I chose to meet these people in the real world I’m sure we’d be firm friends!

I just want to reiterate though that until you meet a person in the flesh, you NEVER know them, you CANNOT know them via online words. In fact, to go one step further; you NEVER know anyone 100% (I’ve stated this in other posts too)! Words without actions, body language, past experiences of that person and eye contact – can be easily manipulated to make you ‘see’ and believe what you want to.

Not that I am stating I or anyone else on WordPress is a confidence trickster or malignant personality. It is just a fact of life that meeting people is the key to, well, truly meeting people! We all know that!

We are, whether we want to admit it or not, all wearing a mask; a mask of online anonymity. We are all existing in our own online worlds, our own little portion of online reality; and this is what makes the internet good and bad.

I don’t want to sacrifice this online anonymity to anyone I don’t want to. I don’t want to let all and sundry into my personal sphere.

If that is a bone of contention for anyone, well, that isn’t my problem. Accept me as I accept you; well, the virtual version of you in any case!!!!!

Opinions please;

What is YOUR take on looking for love via the internet (WordPress) – good or bad thing??

What do YOU feel and think about letting people into YOUR world???

DO YOU ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH OF YOURSELF TO EVERYONE ONLINE????