Times A’wasting


I often feel much of my day is taken up with thinking about, worrying about and focusing on the most ridiculous and silliest of things.

I don’t often question this, this is just me going through the motions of my daily existence, and I just accept it. I tell myself; this is life, we all do this, this is the glue that binds the day together, that allows the greater aspects to stand out and mean something. BUT WHY?? Why waste time on such nonsensical matters? Time is precious, we only live once – all these things are told to us daily and still, though I know this, I allow myself to be caught up.

Life seems to me to be filled to the brim with the most inconsequential of things.

We seem to make a habit, or make it life’s purpose to seek and instate the dull and the waste of time. Maybe it has become routine.

We fill minutes, hours and days with emptiness, and don’t even consider the waste.

We don’t cry out, outraged, by being short changed, by not having something more substantial surrounding us.

Immeasurable nonsense seems to be the ‘menu del dia’ every day of the week.

The cost of this cannot be counted in currency, but in that oh so precious transaction, that thing you can never get reimbursed or reinstalled – YOUR TIME!

YOUR TIME which is YOUR LIFE being stolen from you bit by bit, and perhaps you don’t even realise it.

So subtle is the theft that occurs by engaging in an action without any real and true purpose.

Yet, I write all of this and know, tomorrow is another day; once again I shall commence my slavedom to the ridiculous and silliest of things without question.

That’s life!

Vanquish The Dark Cloud


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Picture called ‘Dark Cloud’ by: chexmixho.deviantart.com

“If something can help you unlock your inner self, then

it is worth while.

Nothing can replace years of feeling a

weight has been lifted’, and ‘a dark cloud’ has been

vanquished”.

 

The Savvy Senorita (AKA: Bex Houghagen) 2013

Award Nomination – THANKS!!!!!!


I give thanks once again to http://tuttacronaca.wordpress.com for nominating me for;  ‘Very Inspiring Blogger Award’.

I gratefully receive the nomination – THANK YOU!!!!!!! I am please to have such validation from my fellow bloggers – who knew that I could be inspirational!!!!

very-inspiring

 

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The rules of being nominated:
1. Copy and place the award in your post.
2. Thank the person who nominated you and link back to their blog.
3.  Tell 7 things about yourself.
4. Nominate 10 bloggers for the award, tell them by posting a comment on their blogs.

 

Here are my 7 things:

I love to travel, I like being warm but I love the cold, I enjoy feeling inebriated, I love wearing black clothes, my music taste is eclectic, I have a library full of books, I have won awards for singing whilst I was a teenager 😉

More info about me, please check this post out: 7 Things I Believe In

My Nominations:

Now comes the nominations of those blogs I enjoy reading. These bloggers speak their own truth, voice their opinions, offer up interesting information, they encourage comments and also lend support to their fellow bloggers.

The 10 I nominate are:

rogerjgalbert.com
http://greenembers.wordpress.com
kchapmangibbons.wordpress.com
http://colinkellyblog.wordpress.com
http://gwendolynndedanaan.wordpress.com
http://psawomenpolitics.wordpress.com/
http://rhiofhearts.wordpress.com//
http://malcolmscorner.wordpress.com/
http://brandonbored.wordpress.com/
http://drosophilacerevisiae.wordpress.com

 

Thanks again, Bex 😀

Belated HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


OK people I am back in Madrid, and looking forward to resuming my online presence!

I trust all of you had a fabulous Christmas?? How about those New Year celebrations, were they wonderful and joyous??
May I ask, has everyone sufficiently recovered from the festivities?! I feel fresh as a daisy, well, at the moment anyway!

I thoroughly enjoyed returning home to see my family, unfortunately time escaped me once more and alas I wasn’t able to meet up with any friends. Regardless of that my Christmas was good and enjoyable 🙂

I have to admit though, since returning to Madrid I have become ever more increasingly aware that this MY home. Well, I get mixed emotions still; as I love the scenery of Wales, but I love my life here in Madrid. I think returning to Wales confirmed that I want to keep moving, travelling and exploring; I don’t enjoy a static existence! I also realise, more and more unfortunately, that there is so much I dislike about the UK!!!! The NHS, the welfare state, unemployment and the general misery – doom and gloom (or what I perceive as misery and doom and gloom)!

In short being back in Madrid for 2013 makes me happy 🙂

I am optimistic for this year, don’t know why, but I am! I feel for the first time in a long while that anything is possible and I am hoping to move on and up and firmly commit the past to THE past!

Hope you can all join me in this positivity (whilst it lasts)!!

The 15 Minutes Of Fame – Blessing Or A Curse?


It was Andy Warhol who said that, ‘In the future, everyone will be world-famous for 15 minutes’. He had a point, and didn’t realise then, just how ‘on the money’ that statement would prove to be.

What got me thinking about this today was JK Rowling’s new book, ‘A Casual Vacancy’. It has been released to cool reviews, not received perhaps as well as everyone hoped it would be. I’m not so surprised by this, I mean Harry Potter’s shoes are very large to fill, but it is how everyone seems so saddened by the news that makes me wonder. Poor JK, I mean her ‘15 minutes’ of fame were probably as big, and far reaching as anyone’s ever could be; if this book disappeared into obscurity tomorrow she won’t be hard done by exactly!

Yet, this ’15 minutes’ gang are all over the world, in one form or another. They pop out of the wood work on a near constant basis. It seems the whole of the entertainment industry is littered with one hit wonders, actors and the like, who have been discarded, ousted from their thrown of omnipotence. They lament for a moment in time they have lost, and feel angered that re-gaining their crown is being denied them, by new talent. Yet, aren’t they the lucky ones? Why do they see their one moment of world glory as not being enough? There are others who have never been given the chance to stamp their mark on the world. Isn’t it just greedy, clinging onto fame, to keep perusing fame and fortune when they have already had their taste? They have already been given the gift of their ’15 minutes’, what more is there to have?

Surely anyone with half a brain knows when it is their time to move out of that spot light and say, ‘OK, I had a damn good run, I’m thankful’, no, they keep on and on trying to claw back what they once were? Why?
Is fame like any other bad habit or addiction? Is it that once you have tasted it, you become a new person, and that person is someone who cannot stop wanting more and more, regardless of the cost to your self-esteem and reputation? Why then doesn’t this fame and fortune come with heavy health warnings, making those that dare to venture further guard against their mental health?

Look at Lyndsey Lohan and Britney Spears; it’s over and yet they refuse to see, and people merely encourage false hope to mock them! It is sad.

I believe the ’15 minutes’ stretches to us mere mortals too. Aren’t we all at some point famous for 15 minutes, not world-wide granted, but in our own way we make headlines with those around us. Isn’t there something we did so well no-one could then replicate our successes, or could they, as we are all replaceable and pervious to the change of opinions and attitude. One minute we are flavour of the month and next, everyone is avoiding us.

None of us can be ahead of the game all our lives though, there comes a time to graciously step aside and let another shine. Yet, some of us seem more able than others to admit it’s over, concede, leave when the leaving is good and maintain our dignity. Aren’t those who are remembered the best and for the longest those that depart quickly; Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin, Jim Morrison, Bruce Lee. No, I don’t imply we should have to die young to be iconic, just accept that we have given our best and that was good enough. No one wants to be remembered as a ‘has been’ after all.

This says it all……

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The Chicken And The Egg, Which Came First; Happiness OR Intelligence?


Which came first, intelligence or happiness?

According to UK research completed by University College London; lower intelligence will signify more unhappiness in life, those who display higher intelligence will be happier.

In a study comprising of 6,870 people; the participants who answered they were ‘very happy’, were those people with an IQ of 120 to 129. However, the highest proportion claiming they were ‘not too happy’ was found in people with an IQ of 70 to 79. People with lower intelligence were reporting that they felt significantly unhappy in their lives.

Has this study found a correlation between intelligence and happiness? Lower intelligence was linked to; lower incomes, worse health, worse  mental health, and more feelings of powerlessness to complete even mundane activities. Are these feelings only associated with lower intelligence, or is there more involved such as social status?

In my experience the higher the intelligence of the person the more issues they have with mental health and unhappiness. Over thinking life, struggling to fit in and be accepted, dealing with personal issues alone, pressures of work and family, and being more aware of themselves and others. How many famous people; artists, musicians, politicians have been unhappy enough with their lives to commit suicide? Were these acts a result of a deficit in intelligence?

How has the intelligence of the participants in this University College London study been measured? IQ tests have come under fire in the decades gone by for being culturally and language specific; ignoring and not inclusive of the vast sections of society, experiences, and different cultures. They also focus heavily on Mathematics; if you have no head for sums you won’t perform well.  What does an IQ test really prove?

What do you think about intelligence and happiness??? Are they reliant on one another or can you have one without the other?? What makes you happy? Is there a measure for this emotion? Is happiness a constant thing or fleeting? Is it your intelligence to blame for unhappiness?

Have a look at below link for further information:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-19659985

Please leave your comments below, thanks 🙂

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‘What Dreams May Come’


When I dream I enter a vivid and fantastical world, where anything, quite literally, is possible. I see scenes played out in places, with people, characters and ‘things’ I don’t even recognise; the colours and images are wonderful, delicate, intricate and complex, as are the languages and actions. It’s as though my brain becomes home to a tiny film production company overnight without my knowledge! My dreams could rival any Hollywood blockbuster, and I just wish I could record them to show to everyone else! I look forward to dreaming, I love the experience. I was under the impression that everyone’s dreams were in the same type of quality, and had the same weird scenarios playing into miniature films like me; yet, apparently not.

I couldn’t imagine going to sleep and merely dreaming about the mundane or constricting my imagination to only what I know such as; work, home, friends and family. I mean that would be severely boring and uninspiring!!!! If I wasn’t flying through the sky, being a vampire, running and fighting Zombies and Demons, climbing mountains, meeting aliens, spaceships landing in my garden and being a professional singer I’d not want to go to sleep again, it would disappointment me beyond belief!

What are your dreams like; weird and wonderful or run of mill?

What do you think your dreams say about you and your life?

Feel free to leave your comments.

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Is the Grass EVER Greener?


I returned to the UK a couple of weeks back, and during this trip I arranged to meet up with two friends I hadn’t seen in a long while. My friend had booked a lovely restaurant and we planned a true ‘girl’s night out’. After we had gladly made our first Vodka toast of the night, talk turned to less lighter topics.

It was during this conversation that I soon discovered the reasons why one of my friends had decided to leave her husband.

When I had initially met my friend through work, she had a luxury lifestyle. Her and her Husband both had excellent jobs, a wonderful house and fabulous cars; they took exotic holidays four times a year, and had no real money or other worries to complain of. Or, so was the impression she gave. It was a short while after this time that my friend left all of this lifestyle behind. The reason behind such a decision was because her Husband was too distant, and in her words ‘didn’t notice’ she was there. The man she consequently left him for had noticed she was there, and that was the ingredient she felt had been sorely missing in her marital relationship.

Now she had seen that the grass was greener, she didn’t hesitate to follow her heart and leave. Only she hadn’t anticipated that the decision to leave her Husband, and move in with her new love would not be quite as she expected it would be.

Soon enough the new situation, and new man, turned sour. The once secure and sensible woman didn’t metamorphize into a fulfilled individual as she hoped to become, but instead into a lonely, depressed and abused woman. The new man used her for money, took drugs and beat her; but she had made her choice, and as the rut grew around her she believed there was no escape.

It took two years for her to gain the motivation, courage and confidence to leave, and through this time she began to realise her mistakes. Leaving her Husband hadn’t been the solution to her problems; suddenly she saw how good her life had been, because that life was now lost to her.

‘The grass is greener’, twice my friend succumbed to this; leaving her Husband, and then again when she realised the loss of a past life she had not fully seen or appreciated.

Why do people do this time and time again? It takes the loss of, sometimes, everything, to realise what they had. What drives that impulse to desire, covet or pursue something they deem denied to them? Is it a case of be careful what you wish for? Does every person who decides to take such a drastic leap into that field of greener grass end up regretting their actions? Or is this more about an individual than a situation; the issues are within them and not on the outside?

Is the grass ever truly greener?

Or, is it greener?

Take a look at this link below for Psychological answers to the question:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/headshrinkers-guide-the-galaxy/201107/mythbusters-the-grass-is-not-always-greener-the-other-sid

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Biggest Loser or Modern Day Freak Show?


From ITV The Biggest Loser (UK)

I am perplexed and somewhat appalled to see such programmes as ‘The Biggest Loser’ being aired on TV. The cavalier attitude to which these programmes, and there are many, address issues of health is somewhat annoying.

The shows ‘experts’ seem to revel in exonerating bullying the participants, and reducing their self-esteem to minus something. Do they ever consider or fully address the greater issues attached to weight gain, self-esteem, confidence and so on? They are dealing with highly emotive and complex issues in a light and disregarding fashion, for mere entertainment purposes. ‘You’re fat because you are greedy, get a grip’, it is not always so simple a solution.

Furthermore such dramatic weight loss as is expected every week, which occurs from drastically restricted diets (crash diets), and extreme exercise routines; certainly is a dangerous mix? If you happen to weigh 33 stones or 462 pounds, isn’t that all too much and too soon; wouldn’t the stresses alone do some severe damage?

I would like to see how the participant’s in these programmes fair psychologically, as well as health wise after leaving such programmes. I wonder what issues they have come up against months later, and who is there to help? To be honest they are making entertainment yet again out of other people’s misery, mocking people like they are part of some modern-day freak show, its gross.

http://www.itv.com/biggestloser/

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Ambition Drives The Wheels Of Success.


Or does it?? Maybe ambition can hamper success, depends on what you aim to succeed at. We are all encouraged to do something that people themselves have a knowledge or experience in. What if you want to be something different, out of the norm? How do you succeed at a profession which sometimes has no written formula of success? What happens is that one day you wake to realise you are never going to be that rock star, astronaut or ballet dancer, and then life sucks! How can anyone settle for less than their hearts burning desire?

I would love there to be some education into actually helping kids discover how to become what they truly want to be, however off the wall it may appear to be, then maybe there wouldn’t be so many mid-life breakdowns!

Some things are nothing to do with ambition, but the application of it. How do you ever know you are applying it correctly when people in general don’t seem to have the answers you may require??

After years labouring in one direction I have now chosen to turn away from a ‘career’ path I thought I should pursue; again living up to other people’s ideals of a life. Now I am left wandering in the darkness wondering how to make what I truly want to achieve happen! How do you become a rock star?? How do you get a golden ticket in life?? Does one exist or are we all labouring under some false delusion instilled by the fairy tales we watched and read as children?

One final thought; I’d have found career services in school/college/work far more beneficial if they hadn’t just focused on the academic careers.  I was led to believe that I’d get no-where pursuing my creative side, and now I haven’t a clue how to truly forge a path into that working environment.

Maybe it is all luck or again that elusive and un-quantified term, FATE.

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