Recently, well after events unfolded my with Grandmother (Nanna) breaking her hip and leg bones. I have begun thinking of the above labels, and how we apply these to people; how often these labels overlap, freely and disconcertingly.
Family; our kith and kin, our blood, our own, firm relationships and bonds.
Friends; connection, understanding, empathy, shared experiences and interests.
Foe; can be a stranger or the above turned sour and against you.
Family to me seem the strangest ‘kettle of fish’ of all the labels. Fathoming why they are as they are, and why they often profess to be on your side, but all too quickly forget that if the ‘chips are down’, is life’s impossible task.
Why are these kins folk so quick to turn against you, abandon you and use you??
Surely that isn’t in the definition of what a family member is supposed to be??
Yes, family are still people, humans; just because they are flesh and blood or linked by marriage doesn’t mean they will naturally be my firm allies. I know that. Yet, the very ones who let me down first are the ones I think wouldn’t, the ones who claim they are on my side.
In fact there has been one person whom has adopted a complete silence about even acknowledging there has been any problem, that my Nanna has been hospitalised. This person hasn’t even asked once if all is well. I always hear about this persons problems, yet now this person can’t be bothered to even enquire how I am!!!
Yet, they seem happy enough to brag up how wonderful their family is; yes, I bet they are – perfection personified – NOT! These silly little acts meant to gloss over their recent conduct, and the issues they choose to ignore!!! Goodness me.
I really am stumped regarding this silent treatment, but feel that enough is enough. This is not the definition of family I recognise. If I am good enough to be there for them when they need something or require advice, well, consider this privilege rescinded. I am fed-up of being there for others and having nothing in return. The selfishness of some people knows NO bounds!!!
I can turn my back too, so don’t worry. YOU will need me before I will need you.